What I'm Into (For Now)

I've been writing a lot lately: essays, blogs, podcast scripts. But this one's more personal. A running inventory of what I'm into these days. It's evolved a lot since I started hosting events, building community, and digging into power dynamics in a deeper way. This isn't a checklist. It's a snapshot. And like most people, I shift. I grow. I lean into what works and let go of what doesn't.

Himbo Mode: Blindfolds, Touch, and Obedience

One of my favorite setups lately started with me blindfolded. A couple came in fully dressed and didn't let me talk or move unless directed. I became their himbo action figure. A dumb jock toy, positioned and posed how they wanted, stripped down and used on their terms. It was hot, filthy, and deeply freeing. I want that again — but just with one person next time so I can actually nut.

What took it even further was how sensual it became. Being massaged in that headspace, fully surrendered and on display. Erotic touch as control. That unlocked something new. More focused. More personal. A slower build-up with the chance to bust when it feels right.

Age Dynamics: Still Figuring It Out

Age dynamics are newer territory for me. I've usually stuck to partners around my own range, but that range is getting wider. I've started noticing the appeal in both directions, I like some older, especially when they carry real presence. There's something grounding about that. At the same time, I've been surprised how much I enjoy being the older one too. That daddy or alpha energy, guiding the tone, setting the pace. It's still new for me, and I'm figuring it out, but I'm open. Curious. Watching what lands.

Naked Hangs and Odd-Number Energy

When it comes to sex, I usually vibe better in odd-number setups. Threes, fives, sevens — it just feels more natural. Less pressure to pair off, more room to move, and way more fun when the dynamic isn't perfectly balanced. Keeps things from getting stiff. Unless you want stiff.

Outside of that, I'm all for chill naked hangs. Platonic nudity, just being around people (even homies in a hetro way) who aren't weird about their bodies. If you wanna burn one naked, game in your jock, or just kick back unclothed and unbothered, I'm that guy. Doesn't have to be deep. Doesn't have to be dirty. Just real.

MFM: Alpha Meets Coach

I thrive in MFM setups. I don't like assumptions about bi play — I'm not into forced crossover, but I'm open to wherever things go if the vibe makes sense. Most of the time I'm the alpha because I set things up, lead the rhythm, and shape the room. But I've got a long-standing fantasy of doing it with someone who brings more of a coach vibe. Calm. Confident. Knows how to hold the space while we both stay present and dialed in. We fuck her together like it's a team drill.

I have strong alpha energy, but I'm not trying to control every move. I follow structure, not micromanagement. If someone has real presence, I'll follow. That anti-alpha space — where power comes from mutual respect, not ego — that's where the real chemistry hits.

Outdoor and Exhibitionism (Legal, Always)

Outdoor play hits a different nerve. There's something raw about the idea of being seen or catching someone mid-act. That voyeur or hunter vibe. The tension before anything physical even happens. But it has to be legal. Always. No exceptions. There's a smart and respectful way to chase that thrill, and I know the line.

Exhibitionism is part of how I found myself. Being seen — fully — through performance and play helped me unlock something bigger than arousal. It wasn't just erotic — it was healing. Being caught can be hot. Being witnessed can be everything.

Gear, Pet Play, and Roleplay That Speaks

Most of my go-to kinks live in masculine roleplay: jock, coach, cop, military, trainer — or just a clean-cut dom who knows what he wants. I like gear that says something before a single word is spoken. Throw in rope. Gags. Pet play. The kind of scene where identity slips off like a sweaty jersey and what's left is instinct and obedience.

Group Energy, Raves, and Dirty Harmony

There's something wild and beautiful about group spaces, especially when they're diverse. I've been in rooms full of bi guys, straight guys, curious guys, even mixed-gender setups where the energy holds. I like that balance. That unpredictable mix of tension and release. I'm not chasing clout or trying to get off the most. It's about immersion. Losing yourself in something real. And sometimes coming out of it cleaner, filthier, or both.

Also down for cuck setups with no humiliation. I've done it. I've done it to a wife too. I'd love to be the one getting cucked next, especially by an established couple. Maybe that overlaps with the action figure energy — being used, watched, appreciated, then dismissed.

Cum, Frotting, DVP, and Fuck Licking

I'm big on shared sensation. DVP. Frotting. Fuck licking. Breeding. Cream pies. Mixing loads. Syncing up and pushing the edge together. Edging before release. Taking turns. Layering tension. It's all fair game, as long as I haven't busted yet.

Jerk Buddies, No Pressure

I've always had a deep respect for jerk buddy setups. That male bonding space where you don't need to label anything. Doesn't have to be gay, bi, or straight. Just two guys who trust each other enough to enjoy what's there. It's really important to respect boundaries in that space, mine included. No pressure. No weird energy. Just chemistry. If it turns into MFM or more, cool. If not, it's still hot.

Connection or Chaos: There's Room for Both

I'm open to deeper connection. Slow burn. Check-ins. Intimacy with space. But I'm also down for a quick drop-in. Mutual. Dirty. No "next" required. There's a time and place for both. Neither one is more valid.

Obedient, Not Submissive

I'm not submissive. But I am obedient — especially when it's earned. If you mean it when you say "good boy," it lights something up. I'm self-locked. I wear my own collar. I own my key. Not for anyone else. For me. As a promise. A reset. A choice.

Why I Study All This

I don't just live this stuff. I study it. I host monthly sex parties. I run a podcast. I write about dynamics, energy, power, and identity. This isn't just kink. It's language. It's ritual. It's how I learn more about people, and more about myself. If you like to nerd out on this, we'll get along. I make space for people with curiosity, depth, and real presence. Interesting minds make everything hotter.

Consent Isn't Just a Buzzword

I know the difference between consent cultures, from room to room and community to community. I don't walk in blind. I know how to listen. I know how to name what I need. I know how to ask. Consent isn't about being right. It's about being real. Let's compare our protocols. Let's talk it through. No one's doing it wrong. Just differently.

If you made it this far, thanks for reading. I'll probably update this again soon. But for now, this is where I'm at.