Comdoms & My Journey with The Pudendal Nerve
😨 Gasp: I don't always wear a condom. But before you rush to judgment, let me explain my situation. It's not out of disregard for safety or lack of concern for my partners. The reason is deeply personal and a bit complex—it's due to issues with my Pudendal nerve.
For those scratching their heads, the Pudendal nerve plays a pivotal role in the sensations and functionalities of the pelvic area, including the oh-so-crucial sexual arousal and climax. Having issues with this nerve means that achieving a climax is an uphill battle for me, one that feels significantly more daunting when a condom is involved. It's less about the loss of sensation and more about the sheer challenge of the act.
Aware of the significance of condoms in preventing STIs, I've taken diligent steps to ensure safety in my sexual encounters. I'm on PrEP, occasionally use Doxy-PEP, and maintain a strict schedule of testing every 3-4 weeks. My approach to sexual health is both rigorous and responsible.
However, there's a twist to my story that complicates things further: I've found that using TriMix, albeit an effective solution that allows for condom use, transforms the experience into something... different. While it technically "works" and things operate smoothly, the sensation dims to the point where I feel more like a human toy than a participant. Despite this, I still manage to have fun; it's just a different kind of pleasure, one that's less about physical sensation and more about the connection and intimacy shared with my partner.
The real sting comes not from the physical issues but from the lack of understanding and respect for my boundaries. The hardest pill to swallow isn't the Pudendal nerve complications but encountering individuals who struggle to respect my choices. It's crucial to remember that consent and respect for one's boundaries are the bedrock of any healthy interaction. If a condom is a deal-breaker for someone, that's entirely valid, and I would never push against that. All I ask for is the same understanding and respect in return.
Judgment has no place in the realm of sexual health and boundaries. We're all navigating our unique challenges and making the best choices for our bodies and well-being. If our paths aren't aligned, that's perfectly fine. What's not okay is casting judgment or pressuring someone to conform to your comfort zone without regard for their circumstances.
On a brighter note, I'm not sitting idly by. I'm actively seeking improvement through therapy, tackling the underlying issues head-on. It's a slow and steady journey to recovery, acknowledging that some damage may be irreversible. In the meantime, a dash of kindness and empathy can go a long way.
Let's all remember the importance of respecting boundaries and approaching discussions about sexual health with an open heart and mind. We're in this together, navigating life's complexities. A little understanding and respect can significantly impact someone's life, fostering a culture of empathy and support in our shared human experience. Still all negatives on my last round of testing and hey if something ever happens, I'm ready to take that on responsibly.
